Relationship Dynamics

 This past Sunday at Lord of Life, we focused on adopting a lifestyle of submission to the good of others. We see this dynamic at work in the relationship between Jesus and the Church, where mutual submission for the good of the other is at the heart of all that each does for the other. This then extends into the relationships we have with each other, as Paul points out in the last part of Ephesians 5 and the first part of chapter 6.

Today I would like to focus a lot on the last part of this brief selection, specifically Ephesians 6:5-9. Now, the wording that you likely find in there is sure to raise a few eyebrows in our day and age. After all, we simply do not talk that way, and it makes us think back to a part of American history that is not viewed in a positive light. While that may be the case, what Paul is talking about here is the dynamic of the worker and the person over the worker. For the sake of clarity, I will simply use employer and employee, though there are many nuances to this relationship.

What would it look like if your employer were submitting to your good in order to make your work environment the best it could possibly be for you and others? I encourage you to think about that for a moment before proceeding on. Even write it out on paper. (Here is where you pause to do that!) You have ideas for what would make a vibrant workplace, don't you? You have things that would make going to work something that you look forward to on a day by day basis. It would be great if your employer did that for you, right?

So, suppose you took that picture and went up to your employer and demanded such a work environment. How would those in charge react to such a demand? While there might be some value that they would take from the picture you paint, the fact that you are demanding might cause them to raise their walls of defense. They might look instead to show you why they do the things that they do now, rather than looking at the picture you are painting. In general, demanding that things be done the way you envision likely will not lead to ready adoption.

Now, consider this. What if you demonstrate that you are looking to do good for your employer? Not that you cross boundaries of work and home, or overwork yourself, but that you simply show that you dedicate yourself to your work and to the good of your employer as you should. If you prove to be an employee who is looking out for the good of your employer, you are likely to gain an audience when you have suggestions. Rather than demanding, you can show them the benefit of the changes they could make to encourage people such as yourself to work in similar fashion. 

Looking to the good of others is a lifestyle that mimics what God did for you in Jesus. That applies to your work environment as well. Whether you are employee or employer, God would have you work for the good of your work environment, but even more, especially for your coworkers and their good. God has redeemed you for such an outlook, and believe it or not, such an approach is likely going to stand out in your workplace. Don't be surprised when it is viewed both with suspicion (people wondering what you're trying to gain for yourself) and with disdain (at people who just don't like seeing others doing what they are unwilling to do). After all, Jesus simply did what the Father had sent Him to do, and it resulted in your redemption and salvation. It might not amount to the same in your workplace, but you just never know what doors might be opened when you look to the good of others there.